The holidays are meant to be the easy part of the year. For a lot of families, they’re the hardest. Here’s what tends to help, and why the holidays really are harder for some children and teenagers.
If you’ve ever reached Wednesday of the first week, looked around at everyone else apparently having a lovely time, and wondered what you were doing wrong, you’re in very good company. Plenty of the families we see find the holidays harder than the school term, not easier.
That’s true whether your child is neurodivergent, has a physical disability, or simply finds change harder than most. The holidays take away almost everything that was quietly holding the day together, then ask them to manage more noise, more people and more change than usual. That’s a big ask for any child. For a child or teenager who’s already working hard just to get through an ordinary day, it’s an enormous one.
So none of what follows is about filling every hour, or having a beautiful plan stuck on the fridge. It’s about getting through the fortnight in one piece, with some genuinely lovely bits in it.